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Everyone up in the club is faking it.

YOU are real.

This is where talking to everyone becomes easy and fun.

You hear about being real, keeping it real, and the likes all the time, but does anyone really keep it REAL?

Do we know what it means?

Being ‘real’?

Being real is the source of authenticity.

Genuine expression.

Just being REAL and not caring at ALL transforms you to an El Natural lovable human by everyone.

Be DUMB, SLOW down, you are not your thoughts

There are a few ways to keep it real.

A lot of people might start walking around saying to themselves, “gotta keep it real, genuine, authentic.”

“does she think I’m real enough?”

you walk over with a ‘cool’ image, get blown out, “but I was being REAL!”

This voice saying these things inside your head is purely the ego talking.

The Ego is inauthentic.

Approval seeking…

Afraid, scared, wussed out…

FAKE IDENTITY

Implementation

Now,

You can either “keep it real”

or you can keep it real for you, yourself!

All you have to do is ask,

am I keeping this real? looking outwardly to the approval of others hoping to be included and loved for your skills of keeping it real.

OR

am I keeping this real for me? knowing that WHATEVER happens, I’m content, happy with myself because I brought everything out on the table for all to bear, all cards revealed and no apologies because that’s just the way I am…

In other words really, you need to de-implement everything. Let go of the image you want to put out and search what you REALLY want to express at this moment. What state are you in right now? Be fully truthful to yourself and your authenticity will be fully recognised and appreciated.

Who are you keeping it real for?

For others? or for YOU? – always remember, that you are ALWAYS enough.

Why naturals with girls don’t verbalise how they do it

Because they keep it real.

Verbalising game is actually breaking state. It involves a thorough process of having to THINK BACK to what happened, SORT OUT the SNAP EVENTS and SPIKES to construct a COMPLICATED series of HARD TO EXPLAIN techniques and routines that lead to a simple thing called fun.

stuff that.

Too much work.

Too much thinking involved.

Clogging state.

A lot of natural guys will give out some pieces of advice as ‘general rules’ to follow as social interactions are just TOO complicated to DEVISE and FORMULATE into a plan of attack. blah.

Naturals live in the now, simple-ness, they LOVE the moment, there is TOO MUCH effort involved in having to think back, sort out all these spikes and techniques. They’ll generally have some loose rules to follow on not giving too much of yourself away and leaving her wanting more…. etc… but that’s about the most you’ll get.

A lot of times you’ll just get a weird look as if breaking the code of revealing this stuff is just weird like if you don’t know it, then you’re just not being real about it…. tough luck…

Which is fair enough. People who want to know how to ‘get’ girls are always in a state of ‘wanting’ and lusting, secret desires, inauthentic friendliness… Natural guys just keep it El natural, fully in a state of the moment, not living in the past or future, but just rolling with the flow. Keep it simple and be honest to yourself.

Putting yourself ‘out there’

of course, the best advice really is just to be yourself… funnily enough a lot of people associate the ‘self’ with the ego, the image projected onto others, they identify with what that is as who they are themselves.

Realising that they are NOT their ego, just a passive flow of energy behind that,

is the key to keepin’ it real…

being genuine, authentic and natural.

Being real, involves putting yourself out there.

here is a quick visual I concocted

Pictorials:

IMPRESSION

VS

EXPRESSION

so the first picture you can see the ego, being projected in blue…

which clouds and confuses the girl,

putting a barrier up between the two of you (in red),

which then creates huge amount of thought (lines leading back to brain box)

and eventually frustration and negative emotions swirl inside…

whatever you feel, the girl will feel…. (indicated by radar lines emanating out of the dude to the girl giving her a disheartened expression)

In the second picture, you drop the ego ENTIRELY, you are the OBSERVER behind the fake facade, behind the thoughts and plans, behind everything…

You are the rainbow! (as drawn above)

lol.

you are not even your body.

You are nimbus, flowing through the body, extending throughout the whole club.

You are on FULL flow, – she feels what you feel and you both are in a dual state of pure honest expression and love for the MOMENT. The power of now, the power of love. (cue Hewy Lewis & the news)

Why going in with a ‘boring’ conversation can work

The key of why going in with the ‘boring’ conversation works is because the previous concept was going in with TRYING to come across as higher value and trying to make an impression. (We all know what happens with impressing, …red lines, as drawn above)

However, being ‘boring’ kind of clears the slate, dissolves the ego, you start looking at how YOU would like to approach the situation in a really fun way. Who cares what anyone thinks! I get the chance now to express MY version of ‘boringness’…. YES! This is going to be funny AS! – it’s weird that your mind goes through this enthusiasm when going in with ‘nothing’.

and you kind of have fun doing it…. so even though the top layer of the interaction may appear to be boring, you’re secretly giggling on the inside thinking, “I’m having so much fun with this!”… mean while, she’s feeling what your feeling…. yep, that’s right… rainbows galore all up in that grill.

This is the art of keeping it real for yourself.

There is no approval seeking,

you do not give no fark

and you are in full self amusement mode.

What happens when you SLIP back into ego and ‘gaming’ girls?

Often, I’ll just be having fun with self amusement then ALL OF A SUDDEN, I’ll be like, “shit, I was just having fun now I can’t think of ANYTHING to say.” Then things go stale…

This is where the gangsta pride on keepin’ it real stems from.

“KEEP it real.” All the time. Pride yourself on being REAL. You’re the only one in the club who is… LOVE IT, love the fact you are real to YOURSELF, not to others, but you are REAL to what you FEEL, BELIEVE AND KNOW.

It’s pretty much saying ‘who gives a f*&%?’ to society…..

This is also why Russell Brand is so popular, he’s REAL 100% of the time and solidified in the now. If you haven’t seen him, check him out on youtube with some of his interviews.

He was on a quiz show not long ago, the host was making some jokes and immediately got back into the quiz asking Russell the first question.

He replies without acknowledging the content of the question, “Hold on a minute! I don’t know what just happened …here I am, sitting and having a laugh, listening to your jokes and enjoying myself when all of a sudden Noel and I were put under inconceivable pressure…. ” – that’s true self expression. (it’s on youtube under Big Fat Quiz Of The Year 2006 – midway through this one if you want to watch it http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LbD6K…eature=related)

You’d normally see students in class try and cover up the lack of attention to this question by trying to scramble together an answer in the hopes their ego and outward image of themselves of being ‘alert’ and ‘attentive’ in class was not tarnished…..

so F%$# society… F%$# the image you put out. What ever you are RIGHT NOW, is always enough and fine.

rockstars of course do this a lot too…

they keep things real, genuine and they all get women all over them,

they are the masters of expression and ‘keeping it real’, telling societies conformities to get f%$#ed, it’s not about impression, it’s about expression.

music is all about self expression,

especially when it’s as sexually suggestive as Robbie Williams and you name it… whoever else whose a rocker and famous for being sexually promiscuous…

In Conclusion

For all we have awaiting us is the grave, so let us take advantage of this moment, ‘the now’ as it is the only thing we ever truly have… it is where creativity is born, where expression is realised, it is who you are and the energy that flows through you… all in one.

Everyone has an ego in the club,

it’s a fake environment.

Being real is not a tool to use, not a technique.

Your genuine realness; the low’s and the high’s of what you are, what you feel and your nonjudgmental outward expression of your core self can SEAR through it all. Through everyones defences, shit tests, whatever…

To the CORE of everyones being.

Be real.

Keep it real.

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